Feeling angry?

I have prepared a checklist for young people and 'adults' :) which they can use if they feel angry.

1. Walk away and cool down
2. Take steady breaths and focus on exhaling slowly
3. Count to 20 or more until I feel calmer
4. Use-I-messages and say what I need and how I want to be treated
5. Take a break and use calming tool like a stress ball
6. Push against the wall or floor and then relax
7. Move, exercise, stretch, dance, do yoga, or play sport
8. Scribble on paper, then rip or crumple it up

We need to associate with people that make us better. We become what we surround ourselves with. Energies are contagious so we need to choose carefully the people we surround ourselves with. Our environment will become US. 

Conflict resolution with children should always include gaining their perspective before attempting to find workable solutions. 

Conflict resolution is hard. It is human nature for us to think we are in the right, and that our opponent is the one who has got it wrong. 

Therefore, conflict resolution with children must always include gaining their perspective before attempting to find workable solutions. In doing so, we better position them to feel like a valued partner with ownership in generating ideas and controlling the outcomes.

Children can be taught non violent conflict resolution beginning with, 'hands are for helping people, not for hurting them'. Can you imagine our world today if every Pre-schooler learned this?

Encourage your children to talk about their worries and about their strengths. Help them draw a butterfly. On one side of the butterfly, record their worries and on the other side of the butterfly, encourage them to think of their strengths. This activity helps build resilience and understanding of how they can overcome challenges/

All behaviour is a form of communication so it is important to find the reason why behind the behaviour. At this moment in time, talking about feelings is so important. Treat children with respect and dignity, even when they do not treat you the same way. be the adult.

The way we speak to our child matters, for those words travel beyond their ears, settling into the creases of their hearts and the crevices of their self-worth.

Always ask your children or students how they are feeling! "How are you feeling today" is indeed an important question. But remember that all feelings are OK. If you feel fed up or angry, try to find out why you are feeling that way and what you can do to make things better. If you are feeling happy and cheerful, then take a moment to stop and enjoy that feeling.