In the climactic scene of the 1989 hit Field of Dreams, the character played by Kevin Costner steps onto the baseball diamond that he carved out of his Iowa cornfield. Then, wordlessly, he tosses a ball back and forth, back and forth, with the ghost of his long-dead father.
Communicating with our children and sharing space remain the foundation of parent-children relationships.
Fathers can enhance that connection from day one by playing or holding, cooing, cooking, or sharing music. They can read to their children and share laughter and adventure through stories.
Mothers and fathers should advise and then allow their children to exercise their decision-making skills. Even though mothers do not want their children to make the same mistakes they have made, it is important to allow them to make their own decision.
Open communication does not mean that parents should tell their children everything. They must tell them only what they need to know. Some parents try to make their children their personal confident. I do not think it is a good idea. Do not try to confide in your children about those DREAMS you have left behind. Pushing them in a direction because it was something you missed is a bad idea.
It is better to learn about their strenghts, interests, and joys, and then encourage them to pursue their dreams.
Our positive encouragements as they leap over the hurdles will warm their heart for a lifetime.